Divorce myth: young children always end up living with their mum after divorce

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In this episode, I’m joined by Sharan Bhinder-Dhonsi from Gilson Gray to unpack where this belief comes from — and how it compares to what actually happens today.

Together, we explore how child arrangements are really decided in England and Wales, and why the law focuses on something far more important than gender. ⚖️

✨ In this episode, we cover:

👶 Why this belief is still so widespread and culturally ingrained

⚖️ The legal principle that the child’s welfare is paramount

👨‍👩‍👧 How courts approach child arrangements today (with no presumption in favour of either parent)

🕰️ The importance of caregiving history vs gender

🔄 What shared care really looks like in practice

🤝 The difference between court decisions and what families often agree themselves

Whether you’re going through a separation or simply want to better understand how decisions are made for children, this episode will give you clarity, reassurance, and practical insight. 💡

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