Article for Only Mums and Dads
In this article, I explore how to handle the tricky situation when your ex keeps asking to change the parenting schedule — and how to balance being accommodating with protecting your own time and the children’s stability.
I raise the first key point: unpredictable switches can erode the children’s sense of routine and security. I explain why you’ll want to respond with calm clarity — setting a boundary like “We’ll need 24 hours’ notice for changes” — rather than getting drawn into repeated last‑minute changes.
Next, I outline why documenting patterns matters: if your ex repeatedly requests changes that benefit them more than the children, it might be time to log who asked, why, when — so you have a record if matters escalate.
I also talk about what to do when the change request does genuinely serve the children’s interests — how to evaluate it and when to say “yes” or “no” without guilt.
If you’re coping with an ex‑partner who seems to treat your parenting time as flexible at their convenience, this article offers a guide to respond with intention, protect your children’s rhythm and assert your own boundaries.