Article for Only Mums and Dads
In this article, I explore how often your children should speak to their other parent when they’re staying with you — and why finding the right balance matters for everyone. I look at how consistent, respectful communication can support children’s ongoing relationship with both parents, even when they’re not physically together.
I share practical guidance on setting up a routine that works: proposing regular check‑ins via phone or video call, coordinating with the other parent to agree a comfortable frequency, and being mindful of children’s ages, schedules and emotional needs. I also warn about the pitfalls of over‑rigidity (forcing calls all the time) or laxity (letting sessions slide) — both can create stress or feelings of abandonment.
Finally, I examine the role of flexibility when life gets complicated: when your child is unwell, on holiday, or simply needs space, and how to adapt without losing the connection or letting conflict creep in. If you’re co‑parenting and wondering how to navigate your child’s communication with the other parent while they’re with you, this article offers a helpful map to strike the right tone — one of support, stability and connection.