In this article, I guide you on how to start your divorce with the right negotiation mindset — a change in perspective that can make all the difference to the process and outcome.
I explain that divorce isn’t a sprint but a marathon: it’s not about winning quickly but completing the course with your dignity, goals and resources intact. I show you how to define your version of success — what matters to you, rather than chasing what you think you “deserve”.
I explore why certain phrases like “fair”, “deserve” and “entitled” act like stumbling‑blocks in negotiations: they inject emotion, create rigid positions and reduce flexibility. Instead, I invite you to think in terms of what is “reasonable” and “liveable”—for you and for all parties involved.
If you’re preparing to negotiate the end of your marriage and you’d rather do so with clarity, strategy and calm than get pulled into conflict and frustration, this article is your roadmap. I encourage you to read on and discover how a shift in mindset at the very start can shape the rest of your journey.