Article for Divorce Amicably
In this article, I consider the question: should you tell your employer about your divorce? I explore this dilemma from a range of angles, helping you weigh what to share, when, and with what outcome in mind.
I outline why disclosure can make sense — for example, if the legal process means court dates, solicitor meetings or changes to your availability. Telling your employer can create much-needed flexibility or understanding in the workplace. I also highlight the flip side: you are under no legal obligation to inform your employer, so the decision rests with you.
I then walk you through the how and when: choosing a private moment, keeping the conversation professional and focused on work-related impacts rather than emotional detail, and specifying what you might need (adjusted hours, remote days or support). I also discuss how to involve HR, update your employment records and consider mental-health resources your workplace might offer.
If you’re juggling divorce and a job and wondering how to navigate the overlap, this article invites you to reflect on your priorities, your workplace culture and your future performance. It’s not just about whether to tell your employer — it’s about how to do so in a way that protects your wellbeing and your work.