Article published by Frolo
In this article, I guide you through how to support someone you care about who’s going through a divorce — a moment that often feels overwhelming, confusing and emotionally raw. I show you how your well‑intentioned efforts can sometimes cause more harm than help, and how shifting your approach can genuinely make a difference.
I explore why it’s important not to fan the flames of their anger or frustration, but instead to create a safe space for listening without judgement. I also highlight how asking “What do you need from me right now?” lets your friend or family member decide how you can best help—because sometimes they need practical advice, and other times they just need a distraction or a moment of normality.
I walk you through why directing them toward professionals—whether a therapist, a certified divorce coach or a family solicitor—is one of the most valuable forms of support you can provide. And I caution against offering unsolicited advice based on your own experience: every divorce is different, and your story rarely helps someone else.
If you’re standing beside someone navigating this challenging transition and you’re unsure how to show up well, this article is your roadmap. Read on to discover how to be a source of calm, clarity and connection in a time of life that often feels anything but.