How to maintain contact with your children when they are with their other parent?

How to maintain contact with your children when they are with their other parent?

Article for Frolo

In this article, I explore how you can maintain meaningful contact with your children when they’re staying with their other parent — and why getting this right matters more than the number of calls you make.

I begin by discussing frequency vs quality: rather than forcing frequent check-ins just for the sake of it, I show how you can focus on moments that feel real and welcomed by your child. I explain three common approaches — scheduled times, spontaneous calls initiated by the child or parent, and a hybrid of both — and discuss the pros and cons of each based on your child’s age and daily rhythm.

I then turn to the format of contact: whether it’s a video call, a message, or a shared activity online, it’s worth adapting to what your child enjoys and what feels natural. I suggest ways to make contact feel less like a formality and more like you’re genuinely part of their life — whether that means reading a book together, playing a game or just listening to what they’re excited about.

Finally, I highlight that this isn’t a “one-size-fits-all” situation. What matters is feeling aligned with your child’s needs, respecting rhythms and being flexible enough to adjust as they grow. If you’re wondering how to keep the connection alive — not just visible — this article offers a thoughtful guide to staying present, supportive and in tune with your child’s world.

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